You’ve probably heard of the Netflix show “13 Reasons Why”, even if you haven’t actually watched it. Controversy has surrounded it ever since it was released at the end of March.
For those who don’t know, “13 Reasons Why” centers around the suicide of a fictional high school student named Hannah Baker. Following her suicide, her friend Clay receives a box of tapes, each with a message Hannah recorded before she died. In the tapes, she lists the reasons why she committed suicide…or rather the people who drove her to it. Since the show came out, there’s been a swirl of controversy surrounding it, as people have argued that the show glorifies the act of suicide.
Now, I’m going to add a disclaimer here: I’ve never actually watched the show myself. So everything I’m about to say comes from that perspective. Take that as you will.
“13 Reasons Why” was originally a book written by author Jay Asher, which released in 2007. Asher himself recently spoke about the book and the show at the Twin Cities Teen Lit Convention in Minnesota. According to an article on Fox 9’s website, critics have called the plot dangerous because it depicts high school counselors as unsympathetic to Hannah’s plight. Asher himself says that he’s dealt with criticism ever since the book released and he believes the Netflix show is sparking discussion on an important and difficult issue.
“The only thing that bothers me, is when people try to shut down conversation about it. To me, that is the most dangerous thing,” Asher is quoted as saying.
Some people even tried to have the book banned when it came out ten years ago.
There’s been a lot of talk about “13 Reasons Why” glorifying suicide, but not much talk on how it glorifies suicide. Most of the news stories I see talk about how schools are warning parents about the show and encouraging them to have a discussion with their children. This is all well and good, but I find it hard to believe that the show is somehow glorifying the act of suicide when it is so clearly a tragic story. And when I watch the trailer I just don’t see the problem. To glorify something means to represent it as admirable, and I don’t get the sense that it’s trying to make suicide look like the right thing to do.
It seems to me, as an outsider who isn’t really a part of the conversation, that a lot of people are jumping on the controversy bandwagon in an effort to appear socially conscious. It reminds me of when people buy those ribbons or bumper stickers in support of some cause and proudly put them on display for everyone to see. In the back of my mind I always wonder, “do they actually care about the issue? Or is it just a status symbol for them?” The same kind of thing could be happening with “13 Reasons Why”. People go on about how it glorifies suicide but they don’t really explain how it does or why they think that. Instead, many of them say “don’t let your kids watch the show” and just leave it at that.
And that is not a solution.
Here’s the thing: when you present something as “forbidden” to kids, it tends to entice them to find out more. If you simply refuse to discuss something with a child, then it leaves them unprepared for it when it happens. They won’t recognize the signs if one of their friends starts to contemplate killing themselves. And if they don’t recognize the signs, then they can’t help.
Suicide isn’t easy to talk about. That’s understandable. But ignoring the subject does more harm than good.
Personally, I’m glad that “13 Reasons Why” has generated controversy. Controversy can be good because it sometimes encourages discussion.
And discussion is important, no matter how uncomfortable it might be.
Thanks for reading! Check back next Wednesday for another post, and as always, have a wonderful week!